one of the biggest scams we have been programmed about our sexuality as gay men is that we need to worship a waste hole in the body to be accepted into the community like are you that basic that you cannot think up different methods to fulfilment like some relationships are purely emotional yes I get it a lot of people need to penetrate and need touch etc its just there is a vast world out there and you are stucc worshiping one body part and defining who you are based on that?